Ugh. Kids these days. With their taste in things that’s different than my taste in things was when I was their age due to the ever-evolving media landscape and constantly growing range of options and things that have nothing to do with their intelligence or anything going down hill. Get off my lawn.
I’ve always been gender non-conforming. I’ve never felt like I really belong under the trans umbrella but I also have never really felt like I belong in cis-ville either, I’ve felt sort of lost within the liminal space between the two pretty much my whole life. I feel very lucky that my mother never tried to force me into the the “girl” box and allowed me to be as variant as I wanted with regards to my gender expression and I think it’d be great if more people had that option in their early childhoods, maybe the world might be less fucked up. But I did face issues growing up from peers and other adults for being not “feminine” enough in my behaviors and presentation but the fact that I was supported in my choices by my mom helped give me the courage to not conform to things I never felt fit.
Anyway, how this relates to my bisexuality. I think by and large the people I’m most attracted to are the people I feel some sort of connection with. For me sexual attraction or desire grows out of those connections, it doesn’t just exist on it’s own separate from my relationships with those people. In general I tend to feel more comfortable with people who are in some way variant, people’s who’s genders don’t exactly match the strict boundaries of what cis dictates in our society. This doesn’t necessarily mean trans people (though they’re obviously included) it just means people who’ve had trouble fitting what they’re “supposed” to be. So the people I tend to share connections with are the people who also exist in that liminal space or who are trans and therefore from a gender perspective when I do develop desire or sexual attraction it’s with those kinds of people.
I think that maybe it’s for this reason that my personal concept of bisexuality is that it’s a sexuality of liminality. We exist and our desires exist in the spaces in between homosexuality and heterosexuality, those spaces that defy boxes and boundaries, those spaces that can’t really be strictly defined in simple ways.
an aesthetic that will never go out of style: making others feel loved, needed, and important
So while I really enjoyed this comic by ModMad, the ending was killing me because it was just so darn depressing. Doodled this to make me feel a bit better and also because I love Grenda and her canon freakish strength.
THIS ONE IS THE BEST ONE
I am sorry, but we like happy endings.
This fucking show
An anime with more than 100 episodes is a bigger commitment than marriage